It seems to me that I have lost track of how many times I have read and heard about marriages with celebrities that have fallen almost to the left and to the right. Not that I care (and I personally do not), it seems strange that we often see film and television stars as impeccable people living in the fairy-tale life of wealth and glamor. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality.
There are many ways to lose your sense of self-confidence, no matter how trivially you can get. But whatever happens, we all have to try not to lose our own sense of ourselves.
So what do you need to be bigger than the rest? Here are some of the things you can think and improve what should be enough for a week.
1. Know your purpose
Do you walk in life in a small direction – hoping that you will find happiness, health and prosperity? Identify the purpose of your life or mission and you will have your own unique compass that will take you to your truth in the north every time.
This may seem first of all difficult when you see that you are in a narrow or even deadlock. But there is always this small loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference for yourself.
2. Guess your values
What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. When you set your goals for 2005 – check your goals against your values. If the goal does not match any of your five most important values, you may want to review or revise it.
The number should not discourage you, but it must motivate you to do more than you ever dreamed.
3. Know your needs
Unmet needs can protect you from an authentic life. Beware. Do you need to be recognized, to be right, to control, to be loved? There are so many people who have lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them find themselves stressed or even depressed. List your best four needs and get to know them before it’s too late!
4. Know your passions
You know who you are and what you really enjoy life. Obstacles such as doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only interfere with you, but they will not fail your chance to become the person you need to be. Express yourself and honor the people who inspired you to become the very person you want to be.
5. Live from the inside out
Increase awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting the silence. Common with nature. Breathe deeply to calm your distracted mind. For most of us urban scarfs, it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case, I often sit in a dimly lit room and play classical music. There is a sound, yes, but the music calms the wild beast.
6. Honor your strengths
What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? Write three – if you close, ask your closest friends to help you identify them. Do you have imagination, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authenticity through your strengths. You can increase your self-esteem when you can share with others what you know.
7. Serve others
When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of existence. When you are true to what you are, live your purpose, and give your talents to the world around you, you return to service what you have come to share with others – your spirit – your essence. The prizes to share your gift with those who are close to you are really rewarding, much more if you have to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.
Self-cultivation is a kind of work that is worthwhile. It should not always be within an office building or perhaps in the four corners of your room. The difference is within us and how much we want to change for the better.